2014 was a big year of “lessons learned” for me. A lot of “finding myself” went on. Here are the 14 most important things I learned (for myself) in 2014:
1. Hard times really do bring out your true friends. And more importantly, hard times show you who you have in your life that are not true friends. #goodbye and #goodriddance
“Make sure everybody in your boat is rowing and not drilling holes when you’re not looking.”
2. Running is good for you. It’s good for your mental and physical health. And these things don’t make me hate it any less.
“Your body can stand almost anything. It’s your mind that you have to convince”
3. Take time for yourself but make time for others. Make time for friendships and relationships and for growing in the company of others.
“No one is ‘too busy’ in this world; it’s all about priorities.”
4. Spend your money on experiences rather than things. Spend your hard earned money on moments that make you happy, days and nights that you’ll remember, spend money making memories. Stuff is just stuff.
“Fill your life with experiences, not things. Have stories to tell, not stuff to show.”
5. Read. Read a lot, read a lot of different genres, read what comes highly recommended and also what just seems interesting to you. You learn so much when you read.
“Reading gives us someplace to go when we have to stay where we are.” Mason Cooley
6. Trust that something going wrong does not mean your world is ending. Crushing, heartbreaking and disastrous things are going to happen in your life – grow from these experiences.
“If flowers can teach themselves how to bloom after winter passes, so can you.” Noor Shirazie
7. Setting boundaries in your life and in your relationships is necessary for your happiness. You can only find happiness in your life if you demand respect and love from those you choose to surround yourself with.
“Givers have to set limits because takers rarely do.” Irma Kurtz
8. Spend more time doing the things you already know you love.
“Always do what you love. Never settle.”
9. Find a job you’re passionate about. Spending 8 hours a day, every day, doing something that you hate or that bores you is not any way to make a happy life.
“The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.” Steve Jobs
10. Don’t apologize for being unapologetic. Be real, tell the truth and do what makes you happy – if someone doesn’t like it that’s their problem, not yours.
“It takes years as a woman to unlearn what you have been taught to be sorry for.” Amy Poehler
11. Remaining silent is often better than making a point.
“Be selective in your battles. Sometimes peace is better than being right”
12. Look for the best in people. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Forgive people for things that won’t matter in a year and move on.
“Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one to find the gold.” Proverbs 11:27
13. Be open with how you feel, let people in.
“Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. It’s a sign that you have a big heart, and that you aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.” Brigitte Nicole
14. Celebrate with the ones who love you.
“You can’t stand around and wait to be asked to dance.” Amy Poehler