When you’ve devoted 6 years of your life to something. To someone. What do you do when that’s just not working? Not making you happy. And not making the other person happy. How do you break away from the life you’ve been living and start a new one?
How is it that you can spend 6 years with someone and feel like suddenly you don’t know them at all? How, after 6 years, can so little love and affection be felt between two people. I am just curious how people do this. Every day thousands, probably millions of people are ending relationships. Short, long, engagements, marriages, how do people get through breakups and re-build their lives? Where do you even start?
I’m sure a lot of people start by being completely crushed. Crying for days. Losing their appetite. Spending days in their dark bedrooms curled up with tissues and sappy movies. That’s just not really where I’m at right now. I don’t want to wallow in my pity. I don’t think that method of moving on is wrong. Grieving is a crucial part of moving on from a tragedy. We all know that right? But how, how do you get past that? What’s the next step?
Once the crying is done. Once the self-pity has passed. What do you do? Because this is the stage I’m at. The truth is, things haven’t been perfect for a long, long time. And I get it, 6 years, neither of us wanted to give up, but I’ve already been miserable. I’ve already done the broken heart, crying myself to sleep act. What do I do now?
We live together. Where do we go? How do we separate everything we’ve spent 6 years building, and a home that has 3 years worth of mutually owned stuff in it. How do you start to build a life on your own when everything in your life is intertwined with this other person? When everything reminds you of them. When everything in your life is literally a part of them as much as it is a part of you.
How do you do this?